Do you have an expectation of love or define some aspects of it as perfect? I often wonder about my drive to be perfect and think part of my motivation could be an erroneous belief. I believe I need to be perfect in order to receive love. If I fail, or don’t get it right, I will disappoint people and they will not like me or love me.
Can you suspend your idea of love for a few moments? First, consider how others show you they love you. For example, moms and grandmas are notorious for showing their love with food. When you say ‘no thank-you’ to their offerings in order to honor yourself (you’re not hungry or you’d prefer to eat something else) this may come across as rejecting their love. PDA’s are another example. Some people are really offended when they see/receive affection in public. For other’s, nothing says “I love you” like getting fondled in front of strangers.
Does is mean that grandmas and 'perverts' show their love wrong?
It’s not for me, or you to decide, unless you are on the giving or receiving side of either of those scenarios and it's not working for you…….
Secondly, do you show yourself love? Separate your mind from your body or look at yourself as an observer. What does love feel like to you? How do you like to experience love? How do you show yourself love? I ask this important question because of how often I am shown this in others while doing readings. People claim they love themselves, “Well of course I love myself”, as if I am asking them a silly question. When I suggest they spend time alone each day or take up a creative outlet they say, “I don’t have time for that.” In the same breath they will also sigh and say, “I wish.” I see this over and over. As if self-sacrifice is going to get them to heaven and the drudgery they call life needs to be tolerated and not enjoyed.
Another thing about the number 6 is, it carries the energy of luxury. Do you put off doing something for yourself because you think it is a luxury? Either time or money can feel like a limiting factor. What is luxury to you? A massage? Pedicure? Golf? A good book? A nap? Time alone?
How much luxury do you allow? Do you seek it out? Do you provide it for yourself? And, if you’re not providing it for yourself in some way, how can you expect others or the Universe to know what you want and how you want it?
You can further investigate by doing a Body/Mind check:
According to Louise Hay and numerous intuitive readings I have done, the feet represent the understanding of ourselves, of life and others. The ankles represent inflexibility and guilt as well as the ability to receive pleasure. If you have issues with either of these body parts consider the message your body is sending you.
Another body/mind connection from her book, Heal Your Body, relates heartburn to fear. Since all emotions are either love or fear, it seems obvious to me that heartburn is the heart actually burning for more love.
I often find my body/mind connections on the mat. As synchronicity would have it, I stopped half way through this post to go to yoga. The message at yoga: “Enjoy the process, do not be hung up on the goal.” I chuckled at this as I know this is a sticking point for me with my work (note my 6 energy of my name is about how I behave at work). The message wasn’t completely clear for me, I soon discovered. Half way through class I was experiencing some knee pain. The teacher sensed something was wrong and asked me what was going on. I thought for a few minutes. “I think I am trying too hard.” I was completely aware in an instant that my mind was on getting my legs in the ‘correct’ position….being perfect!...I was not enjoying the yummy stretch nor appreciating my own improvements. I backed off on the next attempts and the pain disappeared.
Love, unconditional or not is so much of our human existence. Are you getting enough of the kind you want? Are you allowing luxurious moments and enjoying the process of things? If not, no worries, you can make the change.
Here are some ideas from my book. This is health and wellness advice for Life Path 2 but, good for anyone with a 2 and all around good advice for everyone.